Oh Yes!....i realised it is veri impt... to control anger, especially from our love ones like family n friends....control anger is not = to bottlin our feelings :) but learn to speak in a calm manner in which we can express our needs :) Difficult....but for the sake of buliding good relationships it is impt sia....I like one situtation in which my pastor quoted:
The usual scenario:
Husband: why are you sssooo stupid? (in an angry tone)
Wife: if you are so smart you wouldnt marry me!!
Under controlled anger:
Husband: why are you sssooo stupid? (in an angry tone)
Express yr feelings
Wife: When you said tat i'm stupid, i felt hurt & sad
Give yr reason
Wife: When you said tat i'm stupid, not only i felt hurt & sad, i felt tat you didnt value me....
Expressing yr need
Wife: When you said tat i'm stupid, not only i felt hurt & sad, i felt tat you didnt value me.... , can you pls not call me stupid in the future?
Isst it great if we can be truthful... sometimes the truth doesnt hurt as much as those quarrels...
Of course btw ppl, there will always be conflict..but it is how you resolve it :)
Haha...This sermon really strike me...to work harder....to control temper...haha...
Oh n the Apples!!!...dun you think it look BIG? Aiya... i think the pic doesnt really show how big leh...but bigger than the normal size apples loh....is 1.5 times bigger leh...and look so hard... how to eat?? haha...i found these at cold storage while shoppin with my mom....lucky she didnt buy...haha...if not i die liao... surely is i end up eatin de loh....cos my grandma got no teeth( fake de...n she super like to eat apple loh....my house confirm got apple de...haha)
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